I am quite curious to know how many people differentiate between being sentimental and being in love. There seems to be a thin and almost invisible line between the two. When I feel sentimental about something or someone, I think I have a feeling that I put on a false front - the 'ought' component comes in. I 'ought' to be doing so and so and the worst part of it, someone else 'ought' to be doing so and so. There is no liberation in this since we sort of set the expectations that one 'has' to do this and that.
Love or affection is all about reaching out minus the niceties and expectations. It is so simple that it seems so elusive and most often misconstrued. It does not expect anything. On a similar note, I keep wondering about the caption in the one of the ads - 'We all change for the ones we love'. I do not agree with that. Love does not really expect any sort of change in the other. Love is all about accepting the person as he or she is and finding a right balance to be able to connect and relate with the person surpassing all the differences. This does not mean that there is no emotional binding between the individuals. It simply means that you care so much for the person and you trust the person so much that you ensure that he or she has enough room and hence is more comfortable.
There is no such thing as 'unconditional love' since love by definition itself is unconditional. Love actually liberates instead of being bound to something.
Sentiment or love?
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The love that is most powerful exists for itself, without reasons, conditions, or excuses.
I disagree...
Even though we say love is unconditional we never seem to love people/things unconnected with us... we dont bother...
There can never be 'I love children'... its 'I love children because they are cute, innocent etc etc'... 'I love scenery because its beautiful'... 'i love being with friends because its so much fun or its itellectual companionship' ... since love cant be without reason, it cant be without condition as well... there is a minimum 'feel good' required to start liking something/someone and that reason becomes condition...
So I think love cant be without expectations/conditions... may be you dont expect something from them for your benefit.. but you expect something from them - their character, their talent, their activities - whatever impressed you, touched you, moved you....
I agree. There will be attraction initially. It will not be sustained unless it's backed with true intention. Ideal love is with god or the people who transcend likes/dislikes/expectations. IMO, love/hate are two sides of the same coin. It's up to you to choose.
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